"I'm soloing" ... "ur selfish"

Sometimes I team and sometimes I don't, so I'm on and off hide and my LFG flag changes from day to day. If I'm in the mood to solo and I get an invite, I generally reply with a quick "No thank you", then go into hide and set the LFG flag to decline all invites. I've never had a problem. Sometimes I'll get a tell back saying, "ok, have fun" or something like that, but never a complaint or a problem.

Here's a wacky idea, if someone sends a tell asking to join up with you, why not invite them? You were soloing and now you're teamed. Do you really care about their grammar skills or presumption? Do you feel that a random lowbie is an unconscionable burden upon your shoulders? If you're just taking it easy and soloing while you do something else you could say "I'm taking it easy and soloing while I do something else. Still want to join?" They might.

I almost always invite anyone who asks because if nothing else it's nice to have an audience for my badass spawn shredding.

Well, I usually play for teaming. When I solo, I am always polite to people who ask. For instance, if they ask me to join a TF I don't have time for, I thank them for asking me and wish them good luck. If someone ask me when I write for an AE arc, I just reply that I work on an AE arc, describe it briefly and suggest that we can team later.

In addition, I set the lfg flag properly, and describe my current gaming preference in my team search field, ie "Prefer TF, SFAE or Trials", "anything goes", "working on AE arc", "tip missions, feel free to join", "solo atm" etc.

This have worked fine to me all the time.

How is that guy supposed to know that you hate teaming unless he asks? I hope you have yourself set to "decline invites" with a warning in the search comment field because otherwise this level of indignation would look awfully irrational!

A word of warning then - just don't announce in any public channel that you solo - apparently its illegal and you get replies to the tune of "Why do you play an MMO and solo?!"

For some reason some idiots find it hard to fathom that you just enjoy playing the game. It is a chance to read the lore and get to know more deeply the plot and gain better experience.

That was the original premise but then the rest of the thread became a melodic chorus of general disdain for those who ask for an invite rather than waiting to get one. You can solo all you want and far be it from me to tell you not to. On that note the reason you might want to reconsider that stance is that the fun you'd have with a helper could outweigh the vindication you feel in smacking down all requests to team, one after another, with ruthless efficiency.

Here's my methods.

"can I join ur team"/"team?"/"can i join plz"
Replies: Nothing/Sorry, mostly AFK, in mission so I don't log/No, I'm soloing.

The last two replies almost always lead to:
"plz"
Reply: No.

Any further requests are met with a global/character ignore combo and a one-star note.

Blind invite 1: Decline.
Blind invite 2: Send tell to inviter that boils down to "I don't want to team, don't invite me" followed by a decline.
Blind invite 3: Decline and hit the team leader with a global/character ignore combo. Add note, hit one star, write an appropriate note describing one-star.

I know that might seem a little extreme, but if you can't take the hint after two turn-downs you're not the kind of person I want to share game time with.

I occasionally get a tell from someone asking to join "my team". I don't bother replying, since I'm not on a team. I haven't received a "ur selfish" comment in years, although I do remember more than one. If I received a comment like that now, I'd probably respond that I don't want to burden them with my poor teaming skills.

I've found that a simple "No thx" to all invites gets no arguments or at best a simple "k" in return.

And, yes, it is selfish in that I am spending my free time the way the way I want to without impinging on anyone else's privilege to do the same.

I've never been on hide even once. I don't get a lot of requests or blind invites on Virtue anyway, but if I do a simple, "No thanks" works most of the time. No need to try and justify it beyond that.