"I'm soloing" ... "ur selfish"

Nah, that's all the astonishment. Anger would be denoted by all caps and an added exclamation mark.

Because more than one of 'em shared the great tip of sticking in /hide mode 100% of the time so that they would never again have to encounter anyone who isn't in their global list already.

Nalrok, if your mind is blown by someone using the name of an actual thing from DSM-IV, I think you need thicker skin. Then again, isn't that the story of the thread?

Originally Posted by Nethergoat it's NEVER too late to pad your /ignore list!

I know. That was actually a rhubarb intended for that Recycle guy.

It's pretty much the definition of selfish. But being selfish isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Good heavens!* You're right! Wanting only to play with friends is precisely the same as being an anti-social jerk who needs professional help!

*I know you can't see it, but please try to imagine my monocle flying off in shock.

Quite right, how silly of me. You were kind enough to offer your own armchair analysis.

My mind isn't blown by you using it in a conversation, my mind is blown by how you used it. You don't use a condition or a disorder as a comparative insult.

And no, that's not the story of this thread. The story of this thread is Captain asking if anyone else had experienced a similar situation to his own in regards to teaming, and halfway down the first page you decide to roll in with a snarky comment that goes against the whole point of the thread. The rest of it is you making yourself out to be a biased, insensitive know-it-all.


Good point! You already diagnosed me via passive-aggressive insult. Good thing we have you around to save forumgoers money on shrink payments, PR.

In all seriousness, accusing me of having a mental disorder is, in fact, advising me to see a psychologist.

Telling people they may have a psychological disorder is tantamount to telling them they need professional help.

Because it's all about you, right?

And there you go putting words in everyone else's mouth again. When did we say we all wanted to be recluses? Go on, I'd love to see it.

Just because some of us like to play the game alone from time to time doesn't make us reclusive. I highly suggest you stop throwing terms around that don't fit the context of the discussion at hand. It just reinforces the idea that you don't know what they really mean.

Given that your posts in this thread have had little correlation with reality, I must conclude that you are suffering from paranoid schizophrenia (DSM code 295.3/ICD code F20.0).

It's pretty laughable of you to come back with the very thing you're accusing me of being so terrible for doing, but the thing is I've somehow managed to soldier on. In response to your previous post, you don't seem to have noticed that my point is that I invite people who send me tells. I fail to see how that is a character flaw?

Haha and Bosstone is up for it too. This sort of undermines your point, fellows.

My time, my patience and my convenience. If want to team, I will do so. When I don't want to team I will not. I wasn't born and raised on the dark side of the moon. I have played with other people before. Teaming is not a novel experience for me, therefore I am capable of making an informed decision as to whether I want to team or not.

What am I losing? I'm playing the game right now, and my Mastermind is currently idling inside a mission as I type this message. I cannot, in good conscience, subject a team-mate to this, because if I were subjected to this, I would be insulted that my time is being wasted. Do not unto others what you would not have done to you.

Stop patronising people. It's not helping.

Originally Posted by Arcanaville Samuel_Tow is the only poster that makes me want to punch him in the head more often when I'm agreeing with him than when I'm disagreeing with him.

Jokes aside, where you go wrong is that your posts in this thread have all assumed that someone who declines people who send them tells is exhibiting a character flaw.

If you want to invite any and all people into your team, nobody's stopping you. If that's how you have fun, more power to you. But don't think everyone else should have fun in the exact same way you do or else they're doing it wrong.

Swing and a miss.

Captain, the Reading Comprehension levels are critically low!

Who does that? From what I've read, only the people in your imagination.

For my part, I have global friends. I moderate a global channel. I attend regularly scheduled events. I usually join the people on my list when invited. I occasionally join random people who are doing a TF or Trial that I need to do.

I do not normally invite strangers to team with me. Freedom of choice.

Except that I've said three or four times now that it's legitimate to decline their request for whatever reason. Again, what I am challenging is anyone's assertion that automatically declining their request is good.
I happen to disagree that a couple minutes of idleness now and then is insulting to teammates. Surely what matters is whether they are doing the best they can in the context of their situation? I would invite someone to a TF who was going to have to take breaks "for RL."

What's a character flaw is you insinuating that there must be something wrong with people who don't do things like you do.

When you antagonise people with passive-aggressive nonsense enough, they WILL dispense with politeness and consideration and simply turn on you. Congratulations - you managed to antagonise essentially everyone else in this thread, even people who might have actually supported you had you not acted like a self-righteous jerk.

Originally Posted by Arcanaville Samuel_Tow is the only poster that makes me want to punch him in the head more often when I'm agreeing with him than when I'm disagreeing with him.

Do you not realize that your two sentences here directly contradict each other?

Something I think you're overlooking is that some of us solo, but are not at all a 'recluse'. We talk on global channels, we talk on broadcast, we chat in local between missions, and sometimes, occasionally, when we FEEL LIKE IT, we join pugs.

The disconnect here is that you seem to think other people get to decide when we team. They do not any more than they have the choice of when we log into the game.

What Nalrok_AthZim alluded to is reality for me: I have trouble socializing with humans when I can see them. I use City of Heroes as a substitute for that socialization.

I also find combat in City of Heroes distressful if too much is happening at once. I'm okay with one or two teammates, or more if everyone knows I can't necessarily keep up, but every time I've had someone who doesn't know me ask if I want to team and I say, "Well okay, but only if the team is small" I either suddenly end up in an 8 man if I don't have the star or if I do have the star I start getting guilted into 'you should invite more people'.

Seriously, without exception. I tried for years accomodating strangers, and each time I was punished with insensitivity or distressful circumstances.

Eventually, the ongoing problem reached a point where I associated 'stranger suddenly wanting to team' with stress. Whether you think I should experience this or not is immaterial. I do.

But despite this, I continue to log in. I continue to socialize through global channels, broadcast, tells, and local, I make new friends, and, yes. I do still sometimes PUG of my own volition.

When I decide to.

Originally Posted by Arcanaville Softcapping an Invuln is fantastic. Softcapping a Willpower is amazing. Softcapping SR is kissing your sister.

The difference is that if you take steps to completely preclude any contact from strangers, you'll never have to reevaluate that situation. You are depriving yourself of potential positive experience in one broad stroke.