Team Etiquette: My Misconception?

Sam, this is GG. It's her thing.

GG, dear, seriously. It gets old when you trump it out EVERY time some poor chap has to settle for using s/he.
Given the majority of game players (at least here) are male, its not really a 50%-50% chance of getting it right.

And this is coming from a guy who know a goodly number of female players
It just really isn't such a huge issue, m'kay?

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Originally Posted by Zwillinger GG, I would tell you that "I am killing you with my mind", but I couldn't find an emoticon to properly express my sentiment.

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Originally Posted by Captain_Photon NOTE: The Incarnate System is basically farming for IOs on a larger scale, and with more obtrusive lore.

Thanks muchly for the replies thus far. I see a couple of things that address the things I didn't really say but that were relevant to what I was trying to say. I myself stated that (in effect) there are as many different playstyles as there are players. Someone pointed out that what drove team behavior once upon a time was no longer relevant, yet that behavior tended to persist in veteran players, mystifying new players as to why the older players insisted on behaving in such-and-such a manner.

I think the bottom line consensus (is that redundant?) is that courtesy is relative. There is no general standard of behavior/etiquette, so the team leader must communicate what he/she/it/they expects of the other players invited to the team, if the team leader holds certain things to be important. Without that communication of expectations, there is no crossing of lines as there are no lines.

As others have pointed out, whether one likes it or not, the team leader has responsibilities. Inform others of expectations. Keep the game moving. Tell others when their actions are to the detriment of the team as a whole. Do something about players who are a disruption to the well-being/fun of the team or who deliberately go against against the stated expectations.

Now me, I'm the non-confrontational type. I'd make a bad team leader, as I'd hesitate to speak up. I supposed that's why I solo (or duo) almost all of the time. When I do team, I shut up, do my best, and keep the fun of the other players in mind.

Thanks for helping me clarify in my mind both what I was trying to ask about and what players in general think about my (largely unspoken) topic.

Lastly, I'll even throw in the motivation for this post to begin with. As I said, I mostly solo or duo with my SO. With Double XP Weekend, the drive to team is high, to squeeze all possible points out of every single hour. My SO was leading a team as she's frothing at the mouth to get a villain to 50 and unlock the VEATs. The mission difficulty was set at +2 levels, and was on an outdoor map. By the 3rd mob, the team (which had run together through 2 or 3 missions previously) wiped due to either 3 mobs being too close together (and thus all 3 being aggroed) or someone on the team deciding to "heat things up" and bring the XP in faster by deliberately bringing in extra mobs.

We tried using strategy, discussed among the team, for the second go-round, but pretty much the same thing happened. I still don't know if it was because the 3 mobs were too close together or because certain players were too confident of their own abilities. The difficulty was lowered for the 3rd try, and things went much better. However, the team leader hadn't specifically settled the debate going on among the team members; she hadn't stated what she wanted the team to do. This particular mission could be ended by defeating a boss, and a player who had said nothing at all during the debates defeated the boss (who was in or near about the 5th mob) and immediately exited the mission.

The team leader and myself were incensed; this player decided for all of us to end the mission. I see now that the team leader's mistake was not clearly stating how she wanted things to go. She kicked the "offending" player and half the team seemed mystified/exasperated/unhappy with that action. The player himself asked (in tell) a few minutes after why he'd been kicked. Our perception at the time was that he knew damn well why he'd been kicked; thanks to the help from all your replies, I see now that there's a good possibility he actually didn't know, and we were just assigning selfish motivations to his behavior at the time where none actually existed.

Again, the bottom line: there is no standard behavior for teams, so the only way to avoid stepping on sensibilities or over "invisible" lines is to communicate, and that responsibility falls squarely on the shoulders of the team leader.

Thanks again for your help.

More on point for the thread:

I try to work on two guidelines (not rules) when I team. When someone else is in charge, I try to follow their lead and support with suggestions. When I'm in charge, I try to make it clear what my expectations are, so my teammates don't have to guess about whether I want glowies, etc.

Who decided it needs to be changed? Intelligent people can tell the difference between discrimination and expedience. Others get bogged down in minutiae instead of dealing with real issues.

GG, how does this contribute to the thread? I'm not even sure why I'm asking. STANDARD ENGLISH PRACTICE WHEN DISCUSSING A PERSON OF UNKNOWN OR INDETERMINATE GENDER USES THE MASCULINE PRONOUN. It's called good grammar. Now, if you want English grammar to change, then fine, but this is not the right place to do it. This is a game forum. Talk about the game, not a percieved slight caused by someone with a better grasp of the English language and appropriate (not "common", appropriate) use than you.