Please reply!

I will always reply, although sometimes not instantly, but as soon as i can Not to reply is rude i think

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I try to reply to all tells. There are 2 cases where I may or may not reply: 1) I'm set for not accepting invites 2) I have already said 'no thx' to the same person and its still in the chat window (not cleared by relogs and such).
I also often leave my character standing around in an instance while doing whatever so the reply must wait until I'm back.

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I do not suffer from altitis, I enjoy every character of it.

I try to reply to all tells. But there are always some I miss. To those I have missed sorry.

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Wow, you're all so good and kind and polite. Must be a forum thingy, because as the OP obviously noticed that's not the common practice in-game. Imho, the actual players not busy posting how polite they are, are obviously busy playing the game being nice and polite with the people the have chosen to play the game with.

Personally I concider myself polite because I've never ever sent a private tell to a stranger asking for an invite (or blind invites etc), because imho it's still almost as rude as calling a total stranger on their phone to sell something or just ask for directions or whatever. Strangely I've still manage to amass a lot of friends in the game and don't ever seem to have a problem getting a team.

While Netiquette is fairly established, I guess MMOttiquette isn't quite formalized yet!

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I'm anal as hell about replying to /tells, MSN conversations, Facebook messages, letters, e-mails, random comments in public. It's a pain in the neck.

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I reply to tells if I see them. This has lead to grief. and if I don't reply, I get guilt trips here. Oh joy.

See, I generally solo. My search message says I'm soloing. So why do I get tells asking if I want to join a team, or have space on my team? Answer: because the person sending the tell isn't polite enough to look at the message.

Quite why I'm polite enough to reply to them, I don't know, but I do. If I've ever not replied to the OP it's because I didn't notice the message, for any one of a dozen reasons. Really, I don't need the nice chap guilting me out over any possible case of this when, if he did send me a tell, he did so impolitely.

Um... I'm tired.

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Well lmfao off! its rude now to send a tell! I really do give up..ive lost the plot ill stop immediatly..so much discussion...me being human..yes.. with real feelings! would really like a reply if i ask someone something ..or...list yourself not lft!! not hard is it now ...

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if he did send me a tell, he did so impolitely.

Um... I'm tired.

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Impolite!..if ur in a team, you go grey...so ill ask...quick "no" Im happy...but most here are outraged! OMG! ok

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I had mixed feelings about this thread. I know how annoying it is to be trying to join a team or create your own team and on some occasions you do get the feeling you have probably and unintentionally sent a tell to eberyone on a full team asking for a spot but there is no way of a searcher avoiding this until such a time as the search is updated to show people on full teams / teaming together etc.

On the flipside however although i do try to reply to any tells i get there are occasions where i am afk/at tailors/base editinf when i dont see a tell for ages, or even if i am busy fighting or the team is chatting a tell may slip through the net!

I suppose this is one of those things where you have people who will usually try to reply and those who dont for reasons of their own!

We really could do with some changes to search as detailed/begged for in many other threads which would probably make quite a big QoL benefit for people on both sides of the debate!!

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I always reply. And most times I get "Ok, thanks for replying though".
Seems that we who reply to /tells are rare indeed.

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I always try and reply to tells unless;
Its broken
It makes no sense (more common than you might think...)
Its rude
I dont notice

Meh -shrug-

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I try to always reply but sometimes i just forget, or if it is a tell saying nothing but "invite meh" i sometimes cba.

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This thread reminded me about an incident a few weeks ago, was teaming happily and being the leader of a 6-man team when i got a tell saying "Do you have room?", no AT or level given so i had to do stop and look him up instead in the middle of the mish. Turns out this guy was 7 levels below us (mid 40's team) and we had no sk spot.

Before i can reply i get the exact same tell from the same guy again. I might have been a bit grumpy that day but i decided to reply "Yes." since we had 2 spots free. Ofc. since he was lower level than us and no sk spot i did not actually invite him, but we had the room...

Anyways 5 mins later he sends a new tell asking why i have not invited him and i politely reply that while we have room on the team, we dont have room on the team for him.

I must have been in an awful mood that night...

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I usually reply to tells. That said, i cannot reply to tells i miss due to being afk. Nor am i fond of replying to tells which are outright rude.
I think if they make the effort to send me a tell, the least i can do i make the effort to reply to it.

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Just a quick question - how do you phrase your /tells?

I tend to give a lot of info rather than a simple "lft" or similar 'text speak' request, and that usually gets a good response.

I'm not saying text speak is right or wrong, but if I receive a lot of those simple messages it can start to feel a bit like the proverbial 4-year old tugging on your sleeve every 2 minutes.

It might be worth looking at how you phrase your requests and see if you can do something a bit original or funny or with plenty of info, and see if that improves things.

Hope this might help

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I gave up on replying to people I don't know, mainly because- For example

Player: Intrested in some mishins? Good XP
Me: No Thanks, Not in the mood for teaming right now.

(About 30 seconds later)

Player: Intrested in some mishins? Good XP
Me: I said No Thanks last time, Not in the mood.

(10 seconds later)

Player has invited you to team...

And this is why we can't have nice things, people just don't understand No. Although, if the tell I get is fairly well written (Such as: Excuse me, We're doing some missions here and fighting 38 Freaks. I was wondering if you'd like to come along.) I will reply, and most likely i'll be more than happy to tag along.

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I gave up on replying to people I don't know, mainly because- For example

Player: Intrested in some mishins? Good XP
Me: No Thanks, Not in the mood for teaming right now.

(About 30 seconds later)

Player: Intrested in some mishins? Good XP
Me: I said No Thanks last time, Not in the mood.

(10 seconds later)

Player has invited you to team...


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Sounds like... Dare I say it?
Ofcourse I do... Farmers.

Oh and no.
As annoying as it was... When I was playing this game most got a no when they sent me tells because I did not want to get reported once they joined my teams.

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I always try and reply to tells, and I've noticed that if you ask politely you get a generally better response.

I do notice that a lot of people reply a long time after the initial tell was sent - usually because they are AFK or in Icon or Respeccing or in the AH - thus focussed on something else like fighting for their life.

But one thing that does bug me is a single "No" reply to a team invite. That's almost ruder than not replying - at least with no reply they might be busy. "No thanks" or something similar is fine but when somebody has a message saying LFT and you ask nicely and get "No" you just think "@$$"

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if he did send me a tell, he did so impolitely.

Um... I'm tired.

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Impolite!..if ur in a team, you go grey...so ill ask...quick "no" Im happy...but most here are outraged! OMG! ok

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You, sir, can't read. I guess that explains why you might send a tell to someone without reading their search message. I did explain why it was impolite, but you aren't interested in hearing that, you're just interested in ranting.

If you can see that my name is not grey, then you can also look at the end of the line and read 'Soloing' in the message field.

If you can't be bothered to do that, then you deserve to be put on ignore, quite frankly. You certainly don't get to complain that anyone else is impolite for not replying when you don't have enough common courtesey to fill a thimble.

Grow up.

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I play without sound mostly, and switch my tab to a tab without PMs in when im deep in conversation in a global, so sometime si miss team invite tells, but then usually my status is "not looking for team"" in these situations, so my answer could be presumed.

Sometimes I honestly just loose it in the background of tells coming from friends.

And other times I /sea and see someone too many levels below me and occasionally I'll ignore that, or if I check their global and its a global i've noted having bad experience with, I wont bother to reply.

All others atleast get the curtosy of yes no.


But also, I have found situaitons where a reply just isnt possible, mostly in active teams with my Empath.

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But one thing that does bug me is a single "No" reply to a team invite. That's almost ruder than not replying - at least with no reply they might be busy. "No thanks" or something similar is fine but when somebody has a message saying LFT and you ask nicely and get "No" you just think "@$$"

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I don't really see why "no" is so rude. I guess if it was in caps with a bundle fo exclamations after it could be viewd as rude.
By the same reasoning wouldn't "yes" be equally rude?
yes/no, yes please / no thanks. sure it's more polite with the longer phrase, but it's not rude to just say yes/no.

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But one thing that does bug me is a single "No" reply to a team invite. That's almost ruder than not replying - at least with no reply they might be busy. "No thanks" or something similar is fine but when somebody has a message saying LFT and you ask nicely and get "No" you just think "@$$"

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I don't really see why "no" is so rude. I guess if it was in caps with a bundle fo exclamations after it could be viewd as rude.
By the same reasoning wouldn't "yes" be equally rude?
yes/no, yes please / no thanks. sure it's more polite with the longer phrase, but it's not rude to just say yes/no.

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Please and thankyou go a long way. That's all

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Just a quick question - how do you phrase your /tells?

I tend to give a lot of info rather than a simple "lft" or similar 'text speak' request, and that usually gets a good response.

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I have a bind which does that for me. It states my level, archetype and the set info in case I think it's useful (i.e for support classes, just to let them know I'm not h34l0r).
Using a bind also saves me the effort of typing the same message multiple times in succession without getting a reply. Much easier to just click one button!

And about the blunt replies:
It's better to reply with a blunt/"rude" message than not reply at all. How the hell is the player sending the messages supposed to know if you even saw the message if you dont reply? If you dont reply to tells at least do not cry about players sending you multiple tells about the same thing in a short period of time...

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If you can see that my name is not grey, then you can also look at the end of the line and read 'Soloing' in the message field.


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To be fair, often when people are in teams their names don't grey out. That's a bug, not the fault of the messenger. It's happened to me more than once.

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