Lonely Me.

Yeah. I have a story to tell you guys. It's pretty sad, at least by my standards. Most of you who know me on Virtue know how peppy I usually am, but this just bums me out.

Today started at exactly 1 PM for me, thanks to the near-allnighter I almost did. I woke up to the great sound of my brother using my computer. And there was a theme song I couldn't place.

He was playing champions online.

Now, as a huge CoH fan, I was pissed. However, due to my short attention span for some MMo's I was on hiatus and playing LoL (league of legends). I haven't been on CoH for a while... around five months, actually.

So, just to spite him, I log on to CoH. Just to see whats new, revisit my main WS. Lord Omi. I remember him.... God, the epic archetypes are fun.

Anyway. So, I log onto Virtue, get the gazillion influence from the stuff I've sold, and check the SG page. Turns out my best friend, Ebon Heart, is giving away the SG we worked so hard to build.

I need cheering up. All of my friends have been offline for a long time. I have no way of contacting them, the SG I was in and had friends in all tanked.

I feel really sad now. I'm regretting logging back in.

Can anyone, please, try to convince me CoH is worth playing again? I've been here for... forever, I guess. I got most of the vet awards, I have a few 50's.... just someone please tell me it's worth it to make new friends. I guess I'll have to leave them, too, eventually.

Is this a joke thread or something?

You're describing everyday "real life" in your post.

If you wouldn't give up on "real life" when "real" friends & family move on then why would this game be any different?

Life, whether it be in the physical world or the virtual, is full of change.

People.
Places.
Circumstances.

They all change at one point or another. We have no choice but to adapt to change.

Perhaps they're all just taking extended breaks like you did/are?

If he's giving it away, that means you have a chance to keep it.

Nothing says that if you take it over that some of your previous friends won't return from time to time.

The guys who introduced me to this no longer play; we duo/trio'd mostly and rarely were there more than the three of us. They quit about 4-5 months after I started playing. I'm a few weeks short of my 33 month badge on my main account.

I team more now than I did when they were playing.

Helping a random guy in Pocket D during valentines two years ago, I met someone with whom I have regularly duod since then. He played on other servers so I made a few alts there too. Joining channels and joining teams there increased my global so often I'll get a team invite by tell than channel call.

Luckily I inherented the supergroups but I've made five or six on other servers too so I could have done that.

It sounds like you aren't having fun in the game. If that's the case the trick is to work out why and fix it. If you're just tired of the game; take a break. If you're depressed that your friends aren't around; see if you can entice them back. (Refer a friend thing?) If you just can't find a team; use the globals, you'll see the same people calling and you'll eventually get to know which leaders suit your playstyle.

But there's nothing wrong with taking a break. This is FUN not work and if you don't want to be here; save your money until you do.

Few of the SGs and people i first teamed with still play the game. Well, i suppose some do, but since this was before global chat and global friend lists existed i really have no way of telling. BUT, i am constantly meeting new people and making new friends, finding new global channels and communities to join, and occasionally running into old friends who have returned.

My advice is to make new friends and join new channels as you go. Maybe i'm an anomaly, but i find i have a harder time making room for new channels and new friends than i do finding them. Communities shift and change, but people worth knowing and teaming with are always out there.

Gotta love sound logic!

You will be surprised on how many nice and welcoming players there are on City of Heroes. Take my experience for example, I JUST came back to playing CoH 2 days ago from a 6 month break and already I have a couple new friends, just by doing TF's and helping people out etc.

I know what you mean though when you say that the people you play with don't play any more. I had my first in-game friend, "Draco Fireling", when I started playing and I mean we did errrrr-thing together. Then we started taking breaks at different times and I haven't heard from him in over 2 years now. It can be sad to lose your in-game friends if they quit or take extended breaks but CoH is the most welcoming community I have ever been in. Just get out there and start chatting up converstions with poeple, it will work, trust me. =)

DRACO IF YOUR OUT THERE SOMEWHERE, I MISS YA BUD! It's me Flame............:'(

Of the in game friends I had when I first started playing there's only one still playing... and we've known each other since college more years ago than I care to remember. I've a couple of other friends I've gotten pretty close to playing in the last few years and several more I meet occasionally. The trick is simply to find people you enjoy and team with them. There's going to be turnover in your friends list; that's just the nature of a game as people come and go.

Global channels are a great resource for finding fun people to team with, use it and build up a new friend list. I've seen many of my old friends quit playing, some moved on to other MMO's and some have stayed or come back.

Check out http://www.repeat-offenders.net/ and try chatting us up in global - we might be your kind of people

If in the five months you never talked to any of your friends you met in CoX, you either aren't a very good friend or they're not very important friends to you.

For me, there's something like a hierachy of friends. Like, real-life friends are more important than internet friends, and internet friends are more important than MMO friends.

The thing is, of course there's people in this game that I like and get along well with and like playing with and all that shizniz, but when neither of us ever suggests finding other methods of talking outside of the game, it's not like either of us really cares about talking to the other outside of the game.

And lastly, if you really need convincing to play the game, it might just be time to take your fifteen bucks and look elsewhere. If you don't really have fun in the game anymore, it's probably time to move on.

Sounds like someone needs a SG invite! Someone give some love!

It sounds like someone has taken internet friendships seriously, where other people did not.

I have also had that problem. For me a friend is a friend, end of story. Many people on the net don't feel similar (this is coming from personal experience) and won't care one way or the other if they plain ol' turn into a jerk, or they never speak with you again. I've had both happen.

But I agree with a few others that have already said that if you need convincing to continue playing, then it sounds like you may want to move on to something else for a while.

And if you made new friends, why would you have to "leave them eventually?" A true friend is just that, a true friend. A true friend will interact with you outside of a game setting, you know...e-mailing or even skype if you became exceptionally good friends.

However, if you want to stay in game, try migrating to another server. I don't know where you are now, but Justice is a great server for the most part. My husband and I would be happy to play with you and add you to global.

I understand what GreatRock is saying. I created an sg 6 years ago, and most of the folks in it are like family. A few have left, then returned...a few are gone for good. This game is fun and familiar, and is not 'just a game' to some people. I have felt deep sadness when someome that I teamed with often has passed away in real life, even though I've never met them in person.
milehigh77 was a little harsh, but what they said was true. Remember when you first start playing, you have to make friends. It's an ongoing process.
Hang in, GreatRock, and remember that every good friend was once a stranger.

Thanks, guys. Most of you seem so nice. Maybe I WILL give this another shot.

If any of you want a fifty war shade, somewhat purpled, on virtue who wants to meet new people and who does a lot of scary-as-hell-omfg-I'd-hate-to-meet-this-guy-but-you'd-be-perfect-for-our-arcane-sg rp, then hit me up. Omi loves to role-play!

Great Rock, 4 years, and 1 static group, which has been for the last year or so. Always good teaming with people, and have teamed with some awesome heroes. I love it. I solo when I want, I team when I want. There are lot's of good people on CoH. I think that's why I like it so much.

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You could join some global channels for Virtue. A few you might like: Virtue LFG Beta, VU2011 and Virtue TFs 2010. Hope this helps!