A small request...

yeah i dont really get how its rude i like being team lead myself so i ont get a chance to do this but "/r not looking for more" isnt that hard to type or just dont reply if that same person keeps on pestering you then by all means get ingore them but one little tell isnt that big deal and relateing life to an MMO dosent really work in the real world it akward to ingore someone you know but dont care for in an MMO not that big of a deal

In mother russia you dont ask to join a team, the team MAKES you join!

*face palm*

oi vey if he doesnt want people on his team he doesnt have to have them no rule that if you have 7 you need a eight

I completly agree with smersh it is rude to ask to join a team i prefer to invite ( non blind)

its easy if team leader:

" level looking for ( number that adds to eight on team) send tell with at"

If not team leader and i am looking:
change search field to looking and broadcast ( DONT SPAM) lvl looking for team " i never had to do this more than 10 mins beforte i got a team

If Smersh doesnt want people sending him tells to join his team he doesnt have to its his 15 dollars...( + 15 for wife)

It's not rude and if there is room I will get them on the team. Some people just want to get upset about nothing.

Sending somebody a tell asking if you can join their team is nothing at all like knocking on random doors asking for money.

As Benito Juarez once said
"In order to be at peace with neighbors one must respect your neighbors privacy"
meaning each has their own ideas of privacy and respect them is peace

Ya know. I must say.. the OP of this thread just sounds like a whiny lil .....! Now see, THAT was rude. Me asking if you have room on your team is NOT rude. Get over yourself and stop complaining about things that are seriously just..stupid.

As someone who is not the team leader most of the time, (And when I am, I'm on a TF 99% of the time) I really hate getting tells asking to join. Usually, they're while I'm on a map...you know, doing my best to help keep my team alive, and moving as fast as they can. Stopping to ask the team leader if he wants some random person I don't have a clue about is not going to happen.

Usually they're from people who don't bother to check if you're on a mission. Usually they're from people who tell you nothing about themselves. (Level? AT? At least give me that much if you want me to have even a remote chance of adding you, huh?) And all too often, my politely declining results in nothing more than another tell a minute later from the same person. (If you -must- spam the entire list, don't do it repeatedly, thanks.)

And, yeah, to me it's like cold calling. If I want something, I'm sufficiently competent to go get it. I don't want people calling me to see if I want what they've got.

Lastly, I often do put a message to the effect of, "Please don't send tells when I'm on a team." Strangely, it doesn't seem to help.

I won't bite your head off if you ask to join my team, (at least the first couple times you do it) but, man, I'm almost never short of a team when I'm actually looking for one...there seem to be so many better ways of getting a group.

Hey, gots any room in joor thred? Kin Whale join?

OPs complaint doesn't make sense.

Personally, I don't mind a friendly tell to join my active and AWESOME team. y'all feel free to ask to be on my team if you want

I'd definitly take a Killer Whale if there was room on my team.

Anywho, figured I might as well start using my forum account some day, and why not start with adding another opinion.

But first off, everyone has their own methods of dealing with various issues in-game. Some are issues with technical aspects, some are issues with community aspects. An issue where you're being asked by a stranger whether there is or isn't room on your team available for them to occupy isn't, in my mind, very offensive at all.

Personally, I'm pretty secure and confident in my personality; when someone asks if there's room on my team, I give them a polite and informative response--usually at the time best benefiting me. If I'm in the middle of a huge battle pummeling foes senseless, I'll wait until after the battle to quickly reply. Something brief and to the point, like, "Sorry, private team." Usually I'll type fast and add something a little more descript such as, "Sorry, private team--just me and a close friend."

Takes less than ten seconds, before I'm leaping into the next fray. Not much of an inpediment to me, no hard feelings on the bloke, and all is well.

Now I will tell you what ruffles my mohawk, and that's when I see everyone talking about how easy it is to find a bloody team. I live in bloody Alaska, and every time I get on, it seems like the world of Heroes and Villains is solely up to me to either save or dominate. There's practically no one on. So when I set my search message to, "Friendly, brawling Brute, looking for anything!", set to 'Looking for Team', post a message in Broadcast every five minutes, as well as Virtue LFG, and encourage other folks who are looking for teams to join me in making one--I rarely get any takers! And it's the most bally irritating thing.

So there's plenty to consider on both sides of the issue. Is it -really- that detracting from gameplay, or really that emotionally infuriating to be asked a simple question? And does the other person perhaps have valid reasons for resorting to more private and direct communication? What does it say about them, but what also does it say about yourself?


Anywho, I hate saying 'I' in forums, but since there isn't really any other way of telling folks what one's own opinion is, I guess I'm gonna have to bite my lip and go along with this for now. Please don't take me as one of those snobby intellectual-wannabe types though--I just deal personally with people every day in my job, and I've learned how to respond over time; I just apply what I do every day to my virtual community as well.

Good heroism / villainy to yer'.

=o!