Same here. I played 2 games (this was one) around 2004 when my son was born. I spent more time on them than time with my newborn. The pc was still new and shiny and so was my gaming exp. It put a major strain on us.
We are better now, and with a 2nd baby, i see him alot more than my first at this stage. lol. I hate it now, but it was a learning experience. We have been together for 15 to date.
She even has her own CoH account now and we team a couple nights a week and when we have free time on the weekends. Compromise is the key to happiness, IMO.
i dont plan on leaving my girlfriend, but i just dont understand that she said she wants to spend more time together. she does the same thing if im playing or not, which is watch tv. the only difference is that when im playing shes bored and says i dont pay attention to her. im always getting up during the game to get her a drink or a snack or to let the dog out while she just sits on the couch and complains. and we talk the whole time too, i mean i know sometimes it takes me a moment to respond to her if im chatting in the game.
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i dont plan on leaving my girlfriend, but i just dont understand that she said she wants to spend more time together. she does the same thing if im playing or not, which is watch tv. the only difference is that when im playing shes bored and says i dont pay attention to her. im always getting up during the game to get her a drink or a snack or to let the dog out while she just sits on the couch and complains. and we talk the whole time too, i mean i know sometimes it takes me a moment to respond to her if im chatting in the game.
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I don't have a girl friend, but it sounds like to me that she doesn't like the feeling that she's "second" to a game. While she may just watch TV when you're hanging out with her, she knows that you're there with her specifically because she either wants you there, or you wanted to be there. You're enjoying time with her, even if it's just watching TV, instead of splitting your attention between your game and her.
But I'm just an observer, and this is what I see. I really have no experience with these things at all.
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well, we are already in a level pact. That and my girlfriend would always get mad when i played. I have 5 active toons also.
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Get her to play as well. Problem solved...
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Women are funny like that. My ex-best friends wife used to complain about not having money, but wouldn't let my friend go back to school or join the police academy to help their future and finances.
Go figure. lol.
ive tried to get her to play, but " its too complicated and dumb". and when we just watch tv i get really fidgety and go insane with boredom. and the fidgety part makes her mad too, its really a lose-lose for me
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Then unless its a serious relationship...maybe cut your losses and move on? Sounds like an underlying problem and it sounds like you aren't very happy. Could always try counseling if you love each other.
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ive tried to get her to play, but " its too complicated and dumb". and when we just watch tv i get really fidgety and go insane with boredom. and the fidgety part makes her mad too, its really a lose-lose for me
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I get the same way when I'm sitting with the wife watching TV. I'm a multi-tasker, I can't do just one thing at a time, it's boring and irritating. Sitting on the couch watching TV is by far the most boring thing in the world for me to do even if i enjoy the show. Once in a while I find myself breaking out old math text books and such just to give my brain something to do.
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Sorry, I just saw I was at 999 and made a promise to myself when i signed up that my 1000th post would not be helpful in any way.
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I'm a Mac user, no Mid's for me
Fun times. My wife (been with her for 13 years) couldn't stand playing vgames until I put a DS in her hands and she promptly proceeded to beat the crap out of me at TetrisDS.
As for MMOs, she's been severly turned off by my EQ addiction. Winged_One's post reminds me of me around 2000-2001. Then came along WoW, to which I wasn't properly addicted but still ate a lot of time as I used to play with friends, leaving her to her TV shows. WoW is probably the single biggest time sink I have ever seen and it's not even a tenth of the fun CoH is.
Needless to say, my wife hated my MMOs.
Then she decided to try CoH. I still can't figure why, but she did. And now she likes it a lot. We play a regular group of 5 people, 2-3 nights a week for maybe 2 hours at a time, and randomly during week ends. She's really good at it. We always play in voice chat and she makes the most adorable brute/scrapper you can picture :-)