What happens to I-stuff if you drop sub?
when dropping to premium all incarnate stuff should stay on the character but all the incarnate powers will be greyed out and unusable until they return to VIP
in essence should not lose anything, just greyed out

That shouldn't happen just for dropping a sub for a while. As the previous poster said, it should just grey out while in premium status, with everything coming back to the way it previously was when you pay again. Either it's bugged, and she should /petition, or something else is going on.
I recently let my sub drop for a week, all my incarnate stuff was still there when I re-subbed. The only issue that did linger is all my characters slots were locked. I have all of the unlocks available, but just have to unlock each one.
I dropped for a while and had no issues. When I logged in as Premium my Incarnate powers were all greyed out but when I re-subbed they came back with no loss of progress.
My sister got busy recently and forgot to re-up her VIP subscription. When she remembered, (after I think a week or two) she applied the payment and logged in...
...to find that her previously incarnate level 50++ characters no longer had ANY slots, powers, salvage or shards. Zip. Nada. All of her level 50's could access the incarnate system as before, but everything they had earned was taken away and reset to zero.
...or so she claims. She's three states away, and I can't see her computer screen (and logging into her account would break the EULA). Now I haven't the foggiest idea what the real story here is, since her account is her account and all, but now it's nagging me: what happens to your Incarnate slots and powers if you temporarily drop to Premium status for any reason?
Not that I intend to drop sub or anything, just curious. (and times being what they are, you never know if I might need to take a month's unwilling break)
...and yes, most of my family plays. My wife, sister, brother-in-law, and both parents (in their 60's) all play and enjoy incarnate content. Go figure.
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