StormyPinkness

If you've got a girlfriend and you're still playing the game too much for her happiness, then, as BillZ so delicately put, you're not thinking about the nookie enough. Good luck though, there is someone for everyone, just look at Lemur(not that way)!

Its the first character I made for CoH, a tribute to a They Might Be Giants song and a nod to a boy who'd recently broken my heart.

Lemur has mentioned a few things about us learning to play together and I will weigh in with some thoughts of my own as the learnee.

Lemur has done a great job of meeting me where I am at with the game. He's right, I don't love CoH, which pains him and for his sake I do really, really try. I just can't get around having more fun playing other games but that just doesn't work for US. I do, however, love playing with him.

Here are some things that worked for me and didn't.

Getting around CoH is still the thing that frustrates me most. No matter what key set-up I try it still feels clunky for me. I move with my mouse and fight with my right hand most of the time. I also invert the camera. I tried setting things up the way I played SWG years ago and I set my screen up as close as possible to how it would look in WoW. Once I realized this worked for me, Lemur helped me figure out keybinds to keep me from auto-running or flying when I used my mouse for prolonged travel. So, while people are telling you not to worry about how she uses the keyboard or mouse, having Lemur help me work it out was the single biggest obstacle we over came. Who wants to play when just trying to move makes them want to quit forever? The key is finding out how to help her move the way she wants to move. Fortunately, Lemur could remember the default set-up for SWG and was able to work with me there. I am not sure how much time he spent on the forums searching for a way to stop the auto-move that would happen when I used the mouse and he will likely never tell me.

A main difference between Lemur and I is this; I play for US, he plays because he loves CoH. I have fun when I play, don't get me wrong, there are things I like a lot. This means one important thing though when we play, quite often I am more interested in playing casually, chatting between fights, character hopping, changing plans when something interesting comes along or quitting completely to go snog on the couch. We both have to be flexible. Sometimes I have to go with the momentum we have and let him 'be in the game' and sometimes its just something for us to do together while I decompress to him about my horrible day at work. He is very good about taking a deep breath, pulling his head out of the game and putting me first. He also takes time to stop and compliment me on new costumes and character concepts and this is a great source of fun for us. As he said before, developing characters and ideas together is the glue that keeps ups playing together. As silly as it is, I am always proud to be out in gameland with him as his partner and I am happy when we are on two characters that obviously look good and play well together.

I will re-advice some things Lemur said. Make her feel smart, accomplished, let her know that she's the funnest person you know and let her know she's got the sexxiest character in Pocket D. Its hard to worry that Lemur could be having more fun with someone else or that he'd had better game partners in the past who were more into the game and better players. Those sorts of feelings can carry over outside of game time and bum out the relationship and that's the last thing you want to do. The game is expendable, your relationship is not.

Lemur's tells reminding me how to get places helps a lot, even when I grump at him "I know that." I am only interested in learning enough about the game to get through a play session with him. My "real" life is far too stressful, too busy, too full of responsibility and too interesting to make the game into work or effort. I like borrowing Lemur's brain to store game stuff in and I like that he's available to be my easy button. He's learned not to lecture me or to try and make it stick and I've learned to focus when its important to him.

Try and be what she wants more than what she needs when it comes to the game. If she wants you to slot all her builds so she doesn't have to think about it, do it, make her happy then oo and aah over how powerfull she is. You might also by her something big and shiny for her favorite character. You might also have to let her know how big and shiny it is.

Let her be in the spotlight sometimes. Lemur can pretty much solo everything. He never needs me. Its nice sometimes though when he lets me FEEL needed. When you play with her, don't run off to the next group until the last guy is down. It sucks to be left whacking away on one guy while your partner is off creaming a whole crunchy group alone. It also sucks to be half a map behind while your partner runs ahead and gets started on the action. (one tip Lemur gave me that helped with this is to have the map window open) I had to play around with a lot of travel powers until I found ones that worked for me. Superspeed is too fast, flying is slow...jumping was just right, in the beginning. I do fine with Superspeed now though.

I always forget to turn off my toggles when I first enter a mission and Lemur is good about NOT reminding me sometimes. I will figure it out for myself when I constantly have no endurance. He won't let me die from it though.

Lemur also helps us avoid maps or mobs that I hate as much as possible. Its a good use of his vast game knowledge and I appreciate it a lot.

I tried a lot of characters before something stuck and it happened to be a fire/fire dominator. I realized ranged characters were much easier for me than melee and compensated for some of the clunkiness I felt when trying to navigate.

On a side note, if she's not meeting people to play with, Lemur and I play on Pinnacle and would be happy to hang with her.

1. Yes
2. Yes, you need to use one of each. the Unique tag means you can only have one per character slotted, every IO set is technically unique within the same power.

so kyoot, <3 it! and its just as mesmerizing as Oh Snap!

*stares*

Its possible someone used the name while you were logged off even if it seems improbable. Could you post the name? It might be a name that's been added to a list of invalid names and you slipped in several years ago but something that wouldn't get by today.

ya, i also have to run it in admin mode...and i have to run vent in admin mode if i'm running cox or my press to talk button won't pick up...fyi

I only rarely crash...very rarely. I have not run hot fixes...i've not messed with drivers. I do run vista..I simply run in windowed mode. Works for me. I don't have even the tiny bit of knowledge people here do...but I had trouble when I switched to vista..I tried everything..then untried it. I switched to windowed mode by chance and haven't had trouble since. I don't know if it was related at all or not..but if its something you've not tried...might be worth a shot. It sounds like you know what you're talking about though and have likely tried a lot more than I did.

He would give them to me again...but these are my FIRST stars! ...I don't really expect anyone to understand...

Sentimentality?

>.> I published a nearly polished arc to test with my sgmates without them having to do it without the benefits of tickets and xp. Then I got stuck...my bf gave me my first 5 star rating ever..and if i unpublish that I will lose my stars! So I just include a note that the last two missions are clunky and buggy and I really would appreciate feedback, ideas and patience.

Normally, I think a mission should be close to polished before publishing....buh BF gave me those stars!

congratulations to you! I couldn't ever do it all solo...I'd be too lonely!

I think I was only trying to say that if you're going to have guidelines stating you will be judging based on that criteria..you should follow them or at least give preference to those who do. Its disappointing to put in the extra effort..to look forward to the event and then see that the criteria was quickly abandoned. I do not think giving preference to active and engaged participants is punishment, ultimately I think it would encourage more active participation in the future. DDH is a well established guild and the costume contest is a well managed, publized and respected enough event that it will not suffer from upholding its standards.

Again, it is DDH's event and its done generously and faithfully and I do not want to come down on the judges. Thank you for taking our viewpoints and suggestions into consideration.

That's a great idea. Congratulations on your win.

My boyfriend lowered himself to actually wearing pink in an effort to incorporate all five colors. If he'd been acknowledged we could have had more fun teasing him about it. I did wonder if it was just hard to pick out the people who had gone with the pallette in the crowd, I made a real effort to use all the colors without looking unnatural and I might have just been too subtle with them. (unnatural aside from the yellow skin of course)

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We had a good crowd last night!

Our WINNERS

Join us next week for another exciting installment of DDH's Sunday Night Costume Clash!!

March 22, 2009 we will be judging based on THIS color palette.

Be creative, have fun and don't forget to tell your friends, SGmates and coalitions. Remember the more people we get to fill the square the better the prizes can get!

Can't make our SNCC?

If you cannot make it to our weekly SNCC due to personal obligations elsewhere, we are offering a submission based contest for you guys.

A new color palette will be chosen each Monday and submissions need to be posted on the DDH site by 12am cst the following Saturday. Please see this page for this week's details.

All winners will be posted in this thread along with the SNCC winners.

Luv, Laff & Alcohol,

T

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I guess I could have done this huh?

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Thank you DDH for hosting the contest. I have to say based on this post I thought the criteria this week would actually be on using the color pallette. DDH does a great job hosting and backing this contest every week and they can judge however they choose but I think it would have been nice to have seen the winners chosen from the people who did stick to the color pallette. I know there was more than one person there who put in the extra effort and time to rise to the challenge.

Sticking to the contest criteria in the forums would be a great way to continue to encourage forum use and I think that its great that you do encourage forum and website use. I find myself looking forward to the Sunday night contest every week, even though I haven't yet gotten so much as a nod. I think I need to be more scantily clad.

Thank you Lemur for the beautiful peice. It was a wonderfull and touching suprise. Lemur is the best game partner a girl could ask for and the best bff and boyfriend anyone could hope for. You did a great job with the story and with helping me get to 50. He is right, I do prefer WoW but there is no one I'd rather spend my time with in or out of the game. There are things about CoX I am coming to enjoy more than WoW so there is hope for all of you with partners who are tweaking out on WoWcrack.

Lemur only touched on some of the highlights of our journey to 50. He left out some of the important things he does as a partner and I will touch on them here. He shows as much interest in my characters as I do and he is always willing to do a little extra on his own time to help make it easier for me to get going in the game because I am so much more limited on time than he is. He indulges me and lets me play dress-up with his characters and we often design costumes for each other. We are wearing outfits we made for each other to wear in the screen shots. But, the most important thing he keeps in mind while we are playing is that the game is never ever more important than the person you're playing it with, ever. Lemur never loses sight of the things in game or in life that are most important and that's why he wins over WoW any day.

Great job on The Scoop. I enjoyed the whole thing but Lemur's was the best by far.

Darling Darkling

Thanks for all the hard work you put into this. I'm really getting a kick out of it.

I thought your Talos Island article was your best yet Mr. Lad.