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Happy Birthday, my little birthday twin!
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Happy Birthday!
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Reminder, this is TODAY.
Grab your nukes and come on down!
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Oh.... Eskimo Joes Cheese Fries AND Girl Scout Cookies?
The temptation.....
I highly doubt I'll make it... but have a plate of cheese fries with some bacon on it for me, please. -
Without endorsing or criticizing anyone's opinion or the way they've expressed them, I want to say this:
We have these little drama bombs two or three times a year. This one was relatively mild and painless. I think we all tend to "remember" the glory days when we all loved each other and we sat around the campfire and held hands and sang kumbaya together....
...but, of course, those days never really existed. We've always been the little server that could..... have drama.
Any of us who have been around for awhile remember the "Sherriff of Nottingham and the Princess" debacle, not to mention the police action that earned us the "Have fun here," thread. Then there was the all out PvP vs PvE world war I and II... and there's others, some I'm not mentioning on purpose, some I'm sure have slipped my mind.
Back in the day, I would leap headfirst into these dramas. Here lately, I'm less inclined to jump into the middle of it. Why? There will be some anger, some tears, some hurt feelings, hopefully a few things will get resolved, probably a few new traumas will be nurtured until the next drama bomb.... but in the end it will eventually wash away and things will settle back down.
Things will NEVER be the way they used to be a year ago, three years ago, or five years ago. Because we aren't the same. People have left, and new people have arrived. The game itself has changed, people have changed. People who were in school are now working, people who were single are now married with kids. We are not the same... and it is naive to think we can go back.
And another thing to remember, we're not all here for the same reason. Some people are here specifically to form connections. Others are here to just get a distraction from their lives. Some are here for a challenge, some are here for relaxation. Our goals may or may not be the same, but we all still have feelings, hopes, fears, and a real life outside of game... some may have a rich and full life and don't 't require a computer game to give us meaning, or we may have a sad and lonely life and our connection with others online is all we've got.
If everyone can just remember that there is another human being on the other side of those words on your computer screen.... another human being who is here playing a game. Treat each other with respect, even if your goals and priorities are not the same, consider privately discussing things before they become a big problem, and just enjoy the game and our strange little family on Protector.
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pssst.... hey, kid....
....there's a little... ya, right there on your shoe. A little bit of drama. You're tracking it on the carpet. -
Thank you to my Soonerlings (you know who you are....) for refusing to even PRETEND I have any control over you. Actually, T pretends sometimes, but we all know better.
Thank you RSFers.
Thank you Spirit Army.
Thank you to anyone who ever read one of my stories and had a kind word.
Thank you Protector... my sweet, precious, little online home. We don't all love each other, we erupt into drama with the regularity of Ol' Faithful, but you are my online extended family and you've been there for me when I needed you. -
Happy Birthday, you cute thing, you!
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This is TODAY!
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Quote:Well, as I said previously, my comment was poorly phrased and I realized it as soon as I hit enter. My next comment WOULD have been an apology and a further explanation, but then she made a tasteless personal attack and I decided to stop interacting at all after that. Yes, I should have apologized and explained no matter how badly she behaved, but ya know what? I'm human. I don't always do exactly what I should. I was offended by what she said and rather than respond in kind, I left.Originally Posted by Mr_Grey
You're right, that was all I saw, Sooner. I even scrolled back a ways to see what had warranted such a harsh reaction. However, I've got a few channels on the same tab, and had probably either recently logged in or had switched characters, so I missed it.
So, out of context, you came off as rude and harsh, and I misunderstood it.
So did the other, though. She thought you came out of nowhere and bit her head off. She didn't know that you remembered her or had dealt with her before. She showed up in Protector Vigilance a couple weeks ago, timidly asking for help and expecting the folks there to harp on her, too (even saying as much after being surprised when the players there started reacting rather warmly).
So, yes. I am sorry that what was SUPPOSED to be a friendly invitation to chat with us came off as a harsh rejection, and I'm sorry that I wasn't the better person and responded with a clarification of my comment.
Kid makes an excellent point. You don't fix a problem by walking away from it, as my mistake above demonstrates. If you want it fixed... fix it.Quote:Originally Posted by kidengineerIf your playing style doesn't seem to fit speed TFs, see about starting TFs of your own. And with regards to the player being berated for asking for help, Sooner's rebuttal aside, did you do anything about it while it was happening? When was the last time you tried starting a conversation? My point is, and it goes for everyone, that we must take responsibility for the state things are in. If we want to see something changed, it is up to us to start seeding those changes. If you want to see more conversations in JS, for Christ's sake, start some. If you want to see more social TF runs, for Christ's sake, start some. If you want to see more people in JS, go out and tell people about the channel. -
Quote:No... that is NOT what you saw. Or rather, I'm sure it is what YOU saw, but that is not an accurate description of what happened.Originally Posted by Mr_Grey
I once saw a player get berated for asking for help in jello Shooters. She was told that maybe she should "drop by when she has more to say than just to ask for help." There wasn't really much of anything else being said in the channel at the time, and plenty of other channels with a conversational tone tend not to snap at a player when they ask for help. Heck, I met most of the people in Jello Shooters BECAUSE I was asking for help! Now, it doesn't seem so easy a place to do that anymore.
Yes... that was me.
The player in question had popped into JS several times previously demanding help. Not ASKING for help, demanding that everyone drop whatever they were doing that very second and help her.
On at least two occasions previously I HAD jumped in to help her, carefully coaching her through the steps she needed to take to solve her problems. It was obviously she was a new player and needed the help.
At no point did this player engage Jello Shooters in any other conversation besides "ZOMGZ! Help me NAO!"
When she popped in again on that particular night, I was attempting to suggest that she should talk to us, get to know us, engage us in conversation other than "HALP MEH!"
I freely admit that my initial comment was poorly phrased - I realized it as soon as I hit 'enter,' but it was intended as the opening of a conversation. However, she responded with a crack about how I must be on my period, so I decided that conversation was over. If she had not immediately launched a tasteless personal attack back at me, I was about to invite her to chat with us.
She was NOT "berated." I had helped her more than once previously, and was more than willing to help her again. I was trying to suggest that she should get to know us. -
I currently have two internet choices: A horribly slow one that makes it nearly impossible to play, and very frustrating and unfun, or a faster one with very limited time. If I run out of time, I can't play at all. So.... I just can't get online as much as I used to.
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The raid went great. Thanks for the opportunity to taunt. That was great fun.
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Oh.. ya...
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I am all over this.
In fact, I might just make my thugs MM a rogue just so she can participate.
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*Pours a Guinness*
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Quote:winning!Originally Posted by ice9_
every time i see you post this comment, i think of this ad.
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This is today!
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Good luck!
I have proven myself completely incapable of writing a story in under 2500 words, or I'd be here too!
Thanks for doing this, Saint. I'm so proud of our tradition of fiction on this server, and I love to see you encouraging it. -
Happy birthday to you!
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I will see what I can do to encourage some others to enter. We do have a very talented bunch here.
For myself, I'm not sure I'm capable of limiting myself to 2500 words! -
Reminder:
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Have a good one, Ura!
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Happy Birthday!
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Reminder. This is today!